Each of us lives with our own version of a Rulebook for Life. Herein are the standards and the rules we have set out for ourselves that we adhere to when making decisions or react to situations.
When you are born, your rulebook is pretty empty. As you grow up your rulebook is written in by all the people around you. Your parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, teachers, preachers and so on. The rules includes things like being polite, having good manners, respecting elders, and so on.
By the time you’re a teenager you start testing these rules one by one.
It is during this time that we find ourselves and figure out what we want to do with our lives. The rules you agree with you start writing in your own Rulebook of Life. This will become the book that you life by for the rest of your life.
Sometimes the rules we write down are very rigid, and this sets us up for disappointment. If you were taught that someone will always excuse themselves after burping and all of a sudden you find a person that burps without excusing themselves, you’ll go into panic mode not knowing what to do. This person has broken _THE_ rules, how dare they? It’s easier if your rule was that it would be good if a person excuses themselves after burping. That way, if a person doesn’t do it you’re not too worried about it.
Once you’ve been living with a rule in your life for quite some time, it’s going to take a lot from you to change it. But if you believe you need to change it and once you change it, you will be better of for it!
So… what does your Rulebook say?
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