We all have them in our lives….. you know who I mean. That person that is the first to point out something wrong when you say something that isn’t accurate, the person that comes up with 10 excuses to not do something or the person that keeps on complaining about life and how hard it is.
All of us have a positive and a negative side to our lives. That is what makes us human and balanced. The good and the bad. Yin and yang. A problem arises though when we tend to dwell on one of the sides for too long a time. It starts to engulf us and that is what we become. You can either be too negative or believe it or not, too positive. I’d much rather be too positive though, but it annoys people more 
How do you point out the negative people in your life?
Think to yourself who of your friends or family have said or done any of these things just once too often in the last couple of weeks.
- You come up with a suggestion of something to do and you tell them about it. Within 5 minutes of you telling them your plan you are given 10 reasons why whatever you want to do won’t work. There is a need for people like this in your life, but it does get depressing if they can immediately give you 10 reasons why something cannot happen and not even 1 reason why it might be a good idea. Take the idea to another person and you’re given 10 reasons why it’s a good idea and 1 reason why it’s a bad idea….
- You’re happy to be alive and want to share it with the person. Within 5 minutes of being in their company your energy is just drained away by their attitude. It might not really be directed at you, but it still drains you. Don’t confuse this with someone that needs to lean on you every now and then, because that is what friends and family are there for. I’m talking about that friend that wants to lean on you at least 4 times a week.
- According to them the world is always against them and everything bad always happens to them. Or they just have “nothing”. This is not to be confused with someone that actually has nothing, opposed to your friend or family member that has a car, a house, a job, food on the table and spare money to spend on other arbitrary stuff.
- People feel uneasy around them and do whatever they can do rather not be in their company. You’ll find that if a room of 20 people is filled with laughter and joy, it only takes one person to come in to spoil the mood with their negativity.
- That person that always thinks the worse will happen, and live in fear because of it. Worrying for instance that going out to the shop someone might run you over in the street doesn’t make sense if you consider that thousands of people are killed in their homes every month.
- Those people that complain that they have too much work to do and then when there’s less work to be done they complain there is too little work to be done.
What can you do?
Do your utmost not to let them drag you down. It’s very difficult because it does drain a lot of your energy. If you feel that being in the company of such people is not worth your effort, rather just avoid them and get on with your life. Don’t whine with them or talk about “tough times”, rather keep a positive outlook on things and tell them about it.
Make the decision
Being positive is all about setting your mind to it. I’m by no stretch of anyone’s imagination always a positive person, but I try my best. For most of the time I have the ability to look at whatever life wants to throw at me and see the positive side to it. Some things in life I just cannot see a positive side to though. Things like rape, murder, child abuse, animal abuse and other things I just cannot imagine people doing.
There are hundreds and thousands of books you can read about being a better person or looking at life in a different way. None of them will help if you don’t decide that you want to be a positive person.
Find out how other people are living, or visit a charity close to your home to see how bad people can really have it. That will make you appreciate what you have. No matter how bad it’s going in your life, someone somewhere has got a lot more problems than you. When we watched Long Way Down and Long Way Round a few days ago, it was wonderful to see how even when cities and villages are clearly living in poverty, they still go out of their way to be friendly and give what little they have to other people, even if they were strangers. Surely if someone that has NOTHING is able to be positive, I am sure you can find it somewhere in your mind to be positive.
Be happy negative people want to be around you
An article I read a while back gave a nice flip side to this story about negative people. Everything in this world is about opposites attracting. That is why you have such funny relationships between people. Naturally a negative person will be attracted to a positive person, and for some perverse reason positive people will be attracted to negative people. So if you find yourself surrounded by negative people, give yourself a pat on the back. You are either a very positive person and people want to feed off it, or you’re just a sucker for punishment…. choose better friends.
Remember
Don’t be too critical of negative people, because remember, deep down we all are negative. At least at one point in your life you too will feel down and that everything around you is just against you, but it too will pass…. hopefully.
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